It’s an exhausting, draining, never-ending battle.
Anxiety vs. You. It seems to always be the battle of your life, the main event, the center stage.
I’ve had a…week, let’s just say that. This week was tough for me, emotionally. It was mentally draining and I let my anxiety get the best of me more than I’m proud to admit. However, I didn’t let it spiral like I would have in the past. I didn’t dwell on it or get frustrated with myself, like past Elle would have. Instead, I let myself feel it and I let myself go through the emotions. I just reminded myself that having bad days and bad weeks are a part of life. There is nothing that can change that.
The only thing we can control is how we react and how we cope with these feelings of anxiety and these racing thoughts. What do I suggest you do when it’s about to take over?
- Make a list of all things that are bothering you. Go through that list one by one and ask yourself “is there anything I can do about this thing right now?” If the answer is yes, do it. Or at least, create a plan to get it done. If the answer is no, cross it out and firmly tell yourself you’re not thinking about it any longer.
- Watch a feel good television show or movie (may I suggest “Friends” or “To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before”). If watching TV isn’t your thing, then listen to music that calms you.
- Write. Just write – about anything at all. My anxiety is part of the reason that I began writing.
- Confide in a loved one. Often, saying our anxieties out loud helps us feel better because it makes us realize one of two things – our anxious thoughts are irrational or we just needed to talk it out. Get a hug in too, if you’re physically with that person.
- Cry. Let it out. Better out than in, right? Sometimes, I get so tense and so stressed out that crying is such a release. Crying can be cathartic at times and for me, it can help release my negative emotion.
I know many of us struggle with anxiety and are always looking for an outlet and a way to cope. What I listed above are the ways that I cope sometimes. It’s different every time, depending on what is making me anxious and where I am in the moment. For example, if I’m anxious at work, of course I can’t cry or watch TV in that moment. But I can take a break to make a list or talk to my best friend, whom I am lucky enough to work with. Find what works for you. There is no wrong way to deal with anxiety if it’s helping you heal.
What’s your weapon of choice for beating anxiety?